Communication is Key: Talking to Aging Parents About Care
As a sandwich generation woman, talking to your parents about care can be a difficult topic to navigate. The truth of the matter is, as our parents age and as you continue to grow into your new responsibilities, you may not have the energy to handle it all.
In the Philippines, taking care of our elders is a deeply rooted value. So much so that planning care arrangements for aging parents can be taboo, which is why most people shoulder this task due to utang na loob.
This article aims to empower you and show you that there are un-sandwich solutions that will ensure the safety and well-being of your loved ones. This article will give you valuable tips to navigate the sensitive process of how to discuss care with your parents and how to approach it with empathy, understanding, and respect.
How to Talk to Aging Parents About Care
Prepare for the Conversation
Initiating a conversation about care for aging parents can be challenging, but it's essential for ensuring their well-being. To approach this sensitive topic with empathy and understanding, start by assessing your parents' current situation.
- Evaluate their needs: Consider their physical and mental health, ability to perform daily tasks, and living arrangements.
- Explore care options: Research different care options available such as in-home care, assisted living, or nursing homes.
- Assess your financial situation: Understand the potential financial implications of caregiving, including coverage of insurance in the Philippines.
- Seek support: Talk to siblings or other family members to share the burden and gain perspective.
By carefully considering these factors, you'll be better prepared to have an open and honest conversation with your parents.
Choose the Right Time and Place
Talking to aging parents about care is a delicate topic that requires careful consideration of the time and place. Try to find a private location where you and your family can gather your bearings, considering the emotions that may run high during this talk.
Your parents may also feel overwhelmed with the information you’ll be presenting. Be sure to give them time and space to digest what you’ve said and to process their feelings.
Remember to exercise kindness, patience, and respect. The goal of this talk is to initiate a dialogue with your parents, not to dictate terms. A supportive and compassionate environment can help encourage better communication between family members.
Create a Care Plan
Once your parents have had time to think about care, it’s time to lay out the options you’ve researched. When presenting these options, make sure to explain each one thoroughly.
Involving your parents in their care plan will give them a sense of responsibility over their remaining years.
When choosing a care plan, consider the financial implications for each option and its benefits. If your parents have a retirement insurance plan, now is the best time to use it. Above all, consider your parents’ comfort with the options laid out. Remember that you and your family are on the same side and that your parents’ care plan is a solution you want to make together.
If you need more information about certain options or if your parents need help adjusting, seek professional advice.
Keep an Open Line of Communication
No plan is perfect, and after some time, your parents may express hesitancy. Listen to them and offer emotional support when you can. Keep communication lines open and honest. This is the only way that you and your parents can move forward together.
